A Man's way of thinking....

So yesterday Alex and I head off to my parents' house. I had ordered a replacement cell phone & as we share a family plan it ships to the billing location. Away we go....

5 mins prior to walking out of the house I noted that my jeans felt quite tight, but that was likely because they had just come out of the dryer. No big deal, right?!?!?

In the car, A is driving. As he adjusts the radio volumne down I note this is because he wants to talk. (He only turns the volumn down when he wants to talk.) I look at him expectantly, but for an odd moment he doesnt open his mouth. And then . . .this comes out. "ifyouthinkyourjeansaretotightmaybeyoushouldgoonadiet" I took a moment to translate this and then just stared at him.

Excuse me? Did you just say what I think you said? Because I know that with me worried about fitting into my wedding dress and the fact that I already have some issues that are body image related that you did NOT just tell me that.

At this point he glances at me and then the following conversation occurs:
"Well our relationship is built on honesty and we've agreed to always be honest with one another. And you just didnt seem happy that you might have to go up a jeans size. I'm just trying to help!"
"Dear - no woman in her right mind is going to appreciate a fiance, husband, s.o.'s help of 'well just go on a diet'"
"why not? its not like a big deal, so you need to eat less & do crunches, no big deal. Sides you arent fat."
"Oh my god. I cannot believe you think this way. . .I'm so done with this conversation. I appreciate the attempt at help, but in the future just tell me you think I am beautiful."
"You are being ridiculous."

Now we get to my 'rents house about now & the first thing my mother notices is that I am 1. not looking so happy and 2. alex is looking put out. So she asks the loving question of "what happened?" Alex relates the story along the lines of, well she just didnt want to go up a jeans size so I offered a few suggestions on how to avoid that. To which I laughed. Then I gave a more detailed explanation.
"Mom, he told me to go on a diet after I mentioned my jeans were a little tight."

At this point my father walked in, looked at A and said..."come into my office and lets talk about how to reply to women."

That was my evening. Yours?

wedding planning update

Wow - so I havent been on in far to long. Just to quickly re-cap, I left off with plans to re-arrange our apartment. HA! Nothing fit where it was supposed to so now our apartment is one big jumbled mess. We are however, houseshopping. We are saving up money, paying down some items, with the full intent to purchase a house around October. How exactly we are supposed to do this, I am still not 100% sure as Alex's car insurance went up. Amazingly he doesnt seem to know how, but given the speeding ticket we paid a month or so ago I am personally amazed by his cluelessness.

Wedding plans: Its all booked, except a florist. I have made an executive decision regarding flowers. We are going silk for all decor. Its a quarter of the price of real, they wont die - I can sell them on ebay if need be for more $$. So we have decided to find out cost for the wedding party flowers from the same florist who did my brother's funeral. Creepy, but I know they do good work, meet very unusual requests (we requested the ocean out of flowers for goodness sake) with skill & talent, and are reasonably priced. Plus they'll deliver. All in all, they serve our needs best.

I've also managed to find a way to pay off this year, ready for it, $5000 in debt. 2k mine, 2k Alex's and 1k joint. Absolutely amazing. All this while saving for a house AND wedding costs, including the honeymoon. I know its rude & crass & all in all the hoped for but not spoken about portion of a wedding, but we hope for monetary gifts. Only because we can buy a big screen t.v. later, we dont really need that cake decorating set or a lot of the material items. Money, money we can use to pay off debt, walk into this marriage 100% debt free & then be able to purchase a house. That is just an absolutely amazing feeling.

So that is my update. I'll be back with more later.